Perché i tedeschi più anziani si fermano, prendono questa posa e ti osservano per periodi di tempo prolungati?
È considerato un comportamento neutro – e non maleducato, inquietante o ficcanaso qui? Perché in altri paesi europei e negli Stati Uniti lo sono.
L’ho sperimentato solo in India molto rurale, ai tempi.
Veramente perplesso.
Grazie!
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di xeniaharley
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He’s thinking about tariffs, leave him alone
Answer:
https://www.reddit.com/r/hamburg/comments/yk0yqf/why_do_germans_stare/
Most efficient way to make someone uncomfortable.
Undressing you in their mind
X-Ray
It’s not only older Germans, it’s widespread haha. Happens to me a lot on the train for instance. I used to think it was a personal thing but now I don’t know. Curiosity maybe?
Also the most perplexing thing is when you lock eyes with them, most I experience don’t get spooked and look away, they just continue returning the stare.
Sometimes I stare back…I never win though
Its in our dna. Even my six month old baby stares at people.
They have nothing better to do and no fucks to give.
From my time in Germany I remember this profoundly. It’s so odd… I remember driving through villages in my normal car, below the speed limit of course and people stared at me like I drive a sports car haha
Maybe because I was wearing a non-black coat, that was unusual for rural Germany.
… they have a boring life and they are curious.
What makes you think that it isn’t just you who thinks that is staring? Ãœ
We don’t, it’s a meme. In my 32 years in Germany I have never noticed people „staring“, and I am Turkish who has also lived in Hungary for a time, until I saw the memes online.
I paid for them eyes, I gonna use them.
Thats not a german thing. Italian and balkan surveillance babushkas exist.
>Is it considered neutral behavior—and not rude, creepy or nosy here? Because in other European countries and the U.S. it is.
the U.S. are not the standard nor are they normal. we don’t stare – we observe, because we are observant and curious people without being scared to be seen doing it. if you feel uncomfortable to be looked at, go home.
I personally find it exceptionally rude. Mostly a stare of about 3 seconds and longer, gets interpreted as a challenge in the back of our minds. I think it has something to do with the animal part of our brain.
curiosity
Curiosity.
It’s not staring, they try to know you better. It’s the key to keep possible conversations with you in a short and precise manor.
I’m not sure what you have encountered.
I’m German and I believe that I don’t stare, at least it’s not something I’m doing consciously. When I’m on the bus or the train I might loose myself in thought and keep looking one way (we call it “looking into the void”)… You’re problem when you’re in the way of my void 😉
Whatever happens to you on the street, I don’t know. I rarely feel stared at, either.
Edit: when it comes to older people and “the pose”, might they just be taking a break and relieving back pain?
Reminds me of r/rentnerzeigenaufdinge where pensioners are pointing at uninteresting things
I think this is more common in small towns.
One reason for old people is that their eyesight is often bad but they also know most people in the village so they stare at you because chances are they know you, or think they might but cant tell for sure as youre too blurry.
Also everything and everything needs to be observed as it could be used to gossip.
One more thing is that in villages its often common to greet people, even strangers you meet on the street but sometimes people are shy and wait for the other person to say it first so they end up just staring for a while lmao
From the UK, where staring (or even glancing for slightly too long) is basically a declaration of war.
15 years deep and I still get mad uncomfortable with it, even knowing that it’s normal, my inner ape is always on high alert. The question in my head is “what if this time it’s not just a German being German? ”
Its basically a trauma responce, you just have to find a way to deal with it that works for you. It’s rough.
We Germans are well aware of our past that’s why someone’s always on watch. Like Jon Snow.
Today a woman stared at me im Stau in auto that was in the oposite direction from mine for about 5 minutes.
“rural india”
Because you look and act suspicious.
I mean Germans stare, Americans talk. Id rather be stared at than talked to.
The Germans that i know, do this because they have to much time.
They dont work or they need something to talk about.
About the neigbour who is has a new haircut or throw the trash in the wrong trashcan…
Doesnt matter if they get socialhelp or they are retired.
I’ve never noticed that they do. I constantly wonder what the rest of you are on about.
That’s how they steal your soul
Thinking before talking. Some need a few longer time.
When I stare out of thr window like dude in OPs photo it’s out of Weltschmerz.
We think about Kurbelwellenlagerschalen and how we are nearing the limits of engineering we deliberately deviate from longevity into efficiency causing faster breakdown in our engines.
This is what we call Weltschmerz.