Ipoteca prima del matrimonio: oltre la metà dei londinesi dà la priorità al risparmio per un deposito di casa per un matrimonio

That’s the smart thing for any couple to do. Marriages cost a fortune these days.

It’s possible to get married without it impacting your house deposit savings.

But it’s if you choose a wedding over a marriage.

Cue boomers not understanding that weddings dont cost £500 and a handshake anymore

I know 3 couples who’ve gotten married or are getting married. Their weddings were between £20-25k. That’s a house deposit! 

Of course people are putting off weddings.

That’s interesting and shows you the issues with high house prices. If prices were affordablr then would individuals actually sit down and consider a relationship? Doesn’t look like it in the UK.

As someone that’s part of housinguk sub…these people often come to the sub after a split. I’ve also seen an unmarried friend buy with partner and eventually split. Wrecked her financially, physically, spiritually and mentally.

The partners i’ve had so far have always indicated they would want a memorable wedding with lots of guests. I’ve always wondered if that’s a disguise for “spend shit loads of money” or if that can actually be achieved on a low budget! 

Personally I’d prefer to spend a smaller amount and put the excess into an amazing holiday somewhere exotic. 

Everyone’s talking about cost but I would say some people don’t see that much point in marriage anymore. You don’t need to married to do things like buying a house, having kids, joint bank account, putting each other on your life insurance plans anymore, so really unless you care a lot about the idea of being able to call someone your spouse maybe you just wouldn’t bother? I might be wrong. Is there anything your spouse can do these days that your live-in partner can’t, legally speaking?

Well you can be married and living under a bridge, your life still sucks.

Or you could have a house, live together in it and let the formalities come later.

The average wedding in the UK cost £24k last year. That is a deposit on a very decent first house. Given the rising cost of both, it seems to me that it is not a matter of prioritising, but a choice. Either you buy a house, or have a one-day massive party. One makes you one night of memories, and the other is a house. If you cannot do both, the house is the most obvious, financially responsible and sensible choice. This is another example of things which used to be a standard on an average salary now becoming incompatible.

Brace yourself, angry Redditors are coming to tell everyone how they paid 50p for their wedding and how anyone who has a nice big wedding is a STUPID FOOL who deserves to be POOR

Hmm, should I spend tens of thousands of pounds on a ceremony that’s part of a religion that I don’t follow or should I save it for something a little more long-term like the house I’ll raise my family in?

I moved out of London ASAP to the North West as I knew I’d never be able to afford to settle there, so I didn’t want to waste time.

I took the 10k that my parents had saved for my wedding, and put it towards a housing deposit, and had a £700 registry office wedding with my wife (who was very happy with it!)

We are now in the process of selling that house, 10 years later. I bought at 143 and am selling at 230, so I have made around 100k on the house, and will be buying a small 2 bed flat in a cheaper area outright with the equity.

This is how financial stability can be accessible to most people if you are willing to live within your means, and avoid pomp and ceremony.