Roe McDermott: Il mio fidanzato ha rivelato che una volta aveva una lancia con un uomo e non credo di immaginarlo più
https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-wellness/2025/06/15/roe-mcdermott-my-fiance-revealed-he-once-had-a-fling-with-a-man-and-i-dont-think-i-fancy-him-any-more/
di Bill_Badbody
34 commenti
Biphobia is very real.
People generally assume that you’re just gay if you’re a bisexual man and just straight if you’re a bisexual woman.
So she’s allowed to take an abundance of mickey but when he does it one time, then it’s off putting?
Gerrup ourra dat.
>I do love him, and calling off the wedding would be an inconvenience.
A bit more than an inconvenience I would have thought.
> I consider myself a very liberal and open-minded person, and I truly believe love is love, regardless of gender.
I’m starting to understand what MLK meant when he talked about white moderates. It’d almost be easier if she was just openly homophobic.
You’re allowed to not fancy anyone for any reason, but not for your sake, for your partners sake to be rid of you.
This person is emotionally immature.
> calling off the wedding would be an inconvenience
pretty long fuckin inconvenience for your partner
As a gay, I’ll never understand. It’s homophobia. You feel your man is less than a man because he is capable of loving or being with a man. You are homophobic. Work through that, please.
Paywalled article so I might be missing some nuance, so she needs to accept that she has internalised a lot of homophobia. Whether she works through that or not will reveal how much it actually matches with her real feelings on the topic, because there’s no correlation between the ideas of masculinity and sexuality.
If you’re still using terminology like ‘fancy’ to describe a person you’re supposedly committed to for life, I’m not sure you’re ready for marriage anyway
Shur lookit… isn’t that the way
Yeah, that’s a deal breaker for a lot of women.
This is just straight up homophobia. I’m not sure what response the write expected, but she got the one she deserves. I feel very sorry for her fiancé
These things happen,no point in pressing on with a wedding/marriage if your in any bit of doubt
And to say this on Gloria Steinem’s half-birthday, I mean Pride month. For shame!
Rage bait?
I actually read Roe’s response aloud to my husband this morning because it was so harsh but also so so spot on.
I liked that she got called out for it in the response. Wanting to seem like a good-hearted liberal but showing her full arse in the choice of words. Her poor fiancé deserves so much better, and it was good to see her told that in no uncertain terms. Also loved that last line that could be read in a multitude of ways, but I’m choosing to read it as a sick burn:
>I wish both of you the futures and loves you deserve.
Part of the response
I admit I’m torn here, because on the one hand I think it is very possible and would be beneficial for you to work through your response to this so you can evolve and save a relationship that I presume has been serious and loving for several years. On the other hand, for your fiance’s sake, I would vastly prefer that they not marry someone who judges their past, whose attraction to them is apparently so flippant, and whose main reason for not wanting to cancel the wedding is due to the “inconvenience”. Frankly, they deserve better, and it’s up to you whether you want to rise to the occasion.
Plenty of woman like this in Ireland. The guy trusted her to be open about his past sexually and she finds herself repulsed. He deserves a better partner. Least he’s finding out now before he’s getting married.
Wait, explain it to me bacuse I’m thick.
Can’t support and personal preference be different? Supporting gay marriage and being straight is a thing. Or I accept religious people of all faith but I wouldn’t want to date one. Is that hypocritical? Is that some phobia?
The problem with Roe’s advice is she presumes every one is as right on and liberal as her and has a really haughty tone if you defer from her orthodoxy. It is clearly an issue for the letter writer and a sexual preference but Roe is shaming them.
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Most women would not be attracted to bi sexual men for a long term relationship,this is well known,she probably shouldn’t marry him,they can both find someone who they can be just themselves with.
This isn’t a person in love, it’s a person who is in a long term hookup that will get half the house and pension in the divorce.
He is better off without her
What a dipshit
This is a very common position for women, no matter how outwardly loud they are about pride, LGBT etc
What?! men cant even have hobbies now?
You wouldn’t know which way to turn.
Better off without her
“I’m into manly men”
Nothing more manly than fucking a bloke.
I once knew a bisexual girl who refused to go out with bisexual men. There’s prejudice from all sides when it comes to bi men.
A puddin bender
She’s a dose.
She’s clearly very immature and homophobic which is very common. He should dump her and find someone else.