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I’d definitely have tried this when I was a kid haha

“We’ve tried nothing and we’re all outta ideas”

I was a school refuser as a child, I kicked, I screamed, my parents had to drag me out the car as I held onto the door. I would show up to school most days red in the face after crying all the way there.

My parents just kept taking me to school, and that was that, eventually I accepted what I could not change and upon reflection as I am now in my mid twenties, I miss my school days very much.

Children can be irrational, they’re governed by a different system of emotion and thought process, and it’s simply down to the parents to just take them to school. Your 9 year old isn’t going to over power you.

If they’re misbehaving at school to the detriment of others, then they should be isolated from the other students until they behave, or transferred to a behavioral school.

Most importantly, alongside of all of this, a child needs a happy home life and therapy/counselling if appropriate. It always comes down to parents who don’t understand the role of being a parent, and unfortunately it can be tough and it can be cruel, but you need to be cruel to be kind.

they should be working, education isnt for everyone, pretty much know what you need by 13 really.

This is such a sad state of affairs – my neighbour growing up refused to go to school and I think her mum ended up being fined? They were already in deep poverty so I’m glad that is no longer seen as a solution.

After a type of kid realises that they can basically do whatever they want it can be really hard to get them to comply. I think this is a very difficult issue to fix

I was heavily bullied when I was in school, especially in high school. I became a “school refuser” in my mid third to mid 4th year S3/4 of high school and refused to go to the point where my attendance that year was like 20% at most. I turned up occasionally for tests. They basically told me if I didn’t start coming in they’d have to make me repeat a year and I wouldn’t be allowed to take my standard grades, especially since I was doing 8 which kind of got me to go in finally. I was able to get straight 1s (As) despite that because I feel I probably kept up better on my own time than in the hell on earth that was my school experience.

I sometimes think on top of the bullying it was that the curriculum wasn’t remotely challenging for me and I also felt like I was wasting my time and at home I could pursue my own interests better and add additional knowledge without all of the disruptions from other students causing constant trouble.

I’m finding it quite difficult to be sympathetic to a lot of the stories in the article tbh.

Having a tantrum because he doesn’t want to go to school?

Starting a riot because he got bored or didn’t understand???

I can sympathise with the girl and her family since they do seem to be trying to find a solution and are still trying to go to school.

But the boys’ stories seem more like they just don’t want to go and pay attention. It’s especially surprising since they seem perfectly aware of their behaviour but don’t really seem to try or even care.

Run a nursery, first hand professional opinion is a lot of parents genuinely are too soft and pandering to their children’s demands and hostile to any professional opinions that they perceive are challenging them.

We had a young parent recently, her 4 year old son had never been away from her longer than a couple of hours. Day 1 he tried to break everything, hurt everyone, scream cried. Called mum in to assist. She started shouting at us how we should just let him do what he wants, she took him out and last i heard she was going to home school him.

Had another parent say that her child said another child was mean to him and if it happens again or she sees it she was going to come back and ‘sort the child out’. The children was an autistic 3 year old. I wish these situations were less common then they are.