Ciao di nuovo!
Il post di ieri era un miscuglio con le risposte, ne avevo già uno contro previsto con il coordinatore, quindi ho deciso di sollevarlo piuttosto che avere qualcosa che pende sopra la mia testa prima ancora che iniziasse.
Lei stessa è stata piuttosto scioccata dal commento e si è scusata per suo conto e ha detto che probabilmente era una brutta battuta, ne abbiamo parlato e mi ha ringraziato per averlo portato alla sua attenzione. Ha detto che hanno avuto studenti irlandesi prima e specificamente studenti cattolici romani e non c’è mai stato un problema in passato, ho detto che era un sollievo e l’ho ringraziata.
Questa è l’e -mail che ho ricevuto da lui circa 30 minuti dopo. Mi sento come se la sua e -mail di pennelli sul problema e lo pone più che mi sentivo a disagio con lui che era l’irlandese del Nord, ma qualunque cosa. Sono decisamente contento di averlo sollevato, ma terrò d’occhio nel corso della mia laurea per qualsiasi altra cosa.
Grazie per tutte le tue intuizioni e consigli sul primo post! (Ho messo la stessa fiera per la continuità)
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Hopefully he will behave himself going forward.
Yeah, its not his comment on his own shortcomings that he should apologise for, it was his intent to treat you differently from the rest and to openly state to the rest that he has a problem dealing with irish catholics, and imply that its OK!
Well done for sending the shot across the bow. You can only report this shit, its up to him to learn from it.
If you feel his email does not accurately reflect how you felt, it is important to flag that now so that there is a record in case there are future issues.
You could sign it off by saying you’re happy to move past it regardless and look forward to the course, etc.
Yea , hopefully they learned, maybe it was a dumb joke that came off shit, but still, from your other post, they came off as ignorant as shit
Don’t book any trips next summer as this may require a repeat now
What more can ya do, may as well move on with life
It really depends on whether his immediate comment was to establish to you that despite him being from Northern Ireland he doesn’t frequently pronounce Irish names hence why he initially said it wrong.
It all depends on if he frequently mispronounces it going ahead until then his reasoning is and was reasonable.
It is also reasonable on your side to pre emptively assume an issue based on information from direct friends and family as well as Reddit and to try get ahead of it.
I’d personally reply that you appreciate his background and his lack of familiarity with the pronunciation of your name and if he can pronounce every other students name reasonably well there should be no issues with making effort for yours. But that might be after he’s not yet made an attempt.
I’m from the north and went to college in Belfast, my girlfriend has a particularly niche name As Gaelige and the amount of micro aggressions and outright bigotry she received from Unionist/Loyalist taxi drivers was mental.
Fair play to you for putting this cunt in his place.
Is your name hard to pronounce? This seems like a total fuck you if your name is able to be pronounced in basic English. There is multiple polish students around me daily, and if someone was to send an email like that saying “sorry I’m not polish so I can’t prnounce your name” and then went on to say “I hear you have a problem, I was simply giving context” there would be uproar about that. It’s disciplinary level.
Fair play to him for apologising
That’s not much of an apology, I wouldn’t accept that! I’m assuming the zoom was recorded, I wouldn’t let this go, he certainly won’t!
Fair play for saying something. Fairly bullshit response but hell be less likely to step out of line for now at least.
Honestly, I think it was a bit excessive reporting him in the first place.
It reads to me like “I’m sorry if you misunderstood me and took offence” bullshit, rather than an actual “I’m sorry for saying something offensive” apology. He’s basically putting the blame on you, rather than owning his mistake. I’d be taking it further with the dean if I was in your shoes.
I apologise if I hurt your feelings!
Don’t believe them. Loyalists are snakes!